Campus Confidential

Victor Olson

This new semester has already brought about new experi- ences. In addition to under-standing the true definition of “swamp-ass” after having classes in Simpkins Hall, I had a truly mind- blowing conversation with a friend.

Now, most of my friends are not that interesting, but beyond that, it is not often in life someone can intro- duce a whole new idea for you to try and wrap your brain around. Think about it. When was the last time one conversation introduced you to a whole new way of viewing the world around you? 

Asexuality was something I had heard of in a pure biological context, but I never spent any amount of time investigating it — until yesterday.For those readers who are unfamil- iar with the term, an asexual person is someone who simply does not have a desire to have sex.

Now, it may seem ironic that the WC’s sex columnist is writing about the lack of sexual desire, but I feel it is an important topic that needs to be discussed.Asexuality is not talked about in the same way as homosexual- ity is; instead, it is often viewed  incorrectly as a disorder or simply a phase that a person can grow out of eventually.

These ideas make it extremely dif- ficult for those individuals who are asexual. These mistruths need to be stopped so that asexuality is some- thing not to be hidden but viewed as another or “fourth” form of sexual orientation.

Although this column will not come close to resolving the deep- rooted problem, I hope it will at least enlighten many readers to start to think about asexuality differently.

In a society where sex is every- thing, it is important to remember that some individuals may simply not be interested in sex. This doesn’t mean they are different, weird or have a medical condition, and you should avoid saying things that sug- gest otherwise.

Some asexuals know from an early age that they do not share the same fascination as the majority of the population. Others struggle to be able to be open about that aspect of their life — and too often, when they do open up, people stand in judg- ment rather than support.

My friend used a fantastic term  and referred to herself as “biroman- tic” rather than “bisexual.” Asexuals can still have relationships. Plenty of relationships are based around more than just sex, so it should not seem odd that an asexual person could be in sexless relationships. Romantic relationships, and even the sexual act for the sake of procreation, can take place in asexual relationships and do not make the person any less asexual.

Asexuality needs to be embraced and accepted rather than judged and dissected. By my standards, I consider it A-Ok.